Hearing scheduled on adultery law

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Permalink Reply by Jamila Lasante on January 11, 2010 at 12:14pm

Since marriage is legally binding, government is involved in this issue already. With people like Tiger Woods running around having unprotected sex, laws like this should stay on the books to show that there are consequences for breaking vows. If you want to have sex with someone else, be an adult and tell your spouse you want a divorce first. In the wake of all the sex scandals- many of them by politicians of course- in the past several years, repealing this law will truly be a disservice to the sanctimony of marriage and family.

Permalink Reply by Chuck McKenney on January 11, 2010 at 12:23pm

I would assume adulterers are penalized by judges in divorce courts. Do we really need to add the police or fines to the equation?

Permalink Reply by Sheila Bryan on January 12, 2010 at 10:42am

I think there are more important issues to worry about but if it makes anyone happy, why not repeal it? Marriages fail from adultery because the two people in the relationship fail to communicate with each other in effective ways, so they seek comfort elsewhere. Is that a threat to the institution of marriage? No, the lack of caring on the two people's part to positively communicate their wants/needs/desires/wishes to each other is where the problem starts. When that doesn't happen, the desire to find solutions to roadblocks in the relationship leads to frustration and negative solutions, like adultery. The law can't legislate peoples' lack of common sense to find good solutions to their marital problems, if they had, no marriage would fail.

Permalink Reply by Jamila Lasante on January 12, 2010 at 10:52am

A great point Sheila!

Permalink Reply by shane on January 13, 2010 at 9:29am

Wow what a great response, I agree that Marriage is a legal binding agreement, and in any such contract breaking the agreement usualy results in award of damages to one of the parties. I also agree that no goverment should try to act as a threat device to any person, the law is just that a threat to enforce a agreement that may no longer be suitable for both parties. Marriage is the most sacred agreement between to people, if that agreement or arangment is no longer suitable for one or both parties they should seek to disolve it by continued discussions like adults, not third graders who splashed finger paint on someone. The bond and trust that marriage brings is sacred to one or both of the parties involved, it should try to be worked out with communication and understanding that we all change and our needs change, the best marriages are the ones with open and honest communication, but even those fail, the diffrence is both parties agree and recognize and agree to go seperate ways (Amicable Divorce) Cheating or Adultry is a shamful act but one born not of a criminal nature, very rare is it the man or woman who says "I want to hurt my spouse in such a way that it will end my marriage and cause pain to them and or my children" The law as it stands is a Criminal one, in order to have a crime you must have a premeditation or malice will to commit such a act, Adultry almost never comes with the malic intent to cause harm, that is usualy the guilt of after the act has been commited. My opinion, repeal the law and let couples be couples and instead teach them how to communicate openly and honestly, if you thinking about the pleasures of another outside your marriage talk to your partner, find out why you want to, talk to your preist or a counselor, not a cop or a jury.

Permalink Reply by shane on January 13, 2010 at 10:18pm

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