To those who wanted a Gay Marriage Repeal:

You want to know something that really annoys me? Closed minds. In the past few weeks of scouring the Herald opinion section, I have been, for lack of a better word, appalled at some of my fellow Puddledockers. What exactly gives you, or anyone else for that matter, the right to judge anyone for who they are, or what they want to be?

I am writing today on behalf of civil unions, because I have yet (and I admit I haven't read every day) to see anyone else do so. In today's world, how can you sit there and honestly say that you think gay marriage is "unholy" and that allowing gays to wed will ultimately "break our society down?" News flash: there ain't much in this world that is holy anymore, and society was broken a long time ago, and it's that prejudice mentality that did it.

I think my favorite argument, because I laugh the hardest at it, is that it compromises the "sanctity" and "integrity" of the institution.

Someone call the friars' club, because I found one of the top 10 most laughable jokes of our time, right up there with, "I did not have sexual relations with that woman" and "mission accomplished." What sanctity? What integrity? The institution of marriage itself appears to be one big gag, but no one seems to get the punch line. More than half of all marriages in this country will end in divorce ... Ba-dum-bum ... tsss. Funny, huh?

I bet I just insulted a lot of you, huh? Undermining the unconditional love you share with your husband or wife. How does it feel?

Most of you — not all, but most — are undermining the love of an entire community. You need to understand that the love a man shares with a man, or a woman with a woman, is exactly the same as a man shares with a woman. Love is what is holy. Love has the integrity, not who may fall into it.

Don't get me wrong. I would love to be married someday. To give my wife and children a life filled with love and compassion so that every day they would know how much I would do to make them happy. I know this life can exist, I've seen it. I have family members who live it every day, and if I'm half as happy with my family as they are with theirs, I will consider myself to be the luckiest man alive.

So I understand why people want to be married. I don't understand why people would try to take that away from anybody. Forget the excuses, what God wants, what the Bible says.

If God didn't want homosexuality to exist, then he wouldn't have created it. And the Bible. I'll just say this ... our modern Bible is known as the King James' version. All the New Testament is is one man's version of events that happened a thousand years before.

Remember playing the telephone game? You'd sit in a circle, one person would start with a phrase, it would go around, and when it got back, it was almost always funny, but never accurate. God exists, and he's looking down at us in disgust.

I think what's really going on is that people are so afraid of change; they need to make these excuses to hide their fear from, not only themselves, but the rest of the world. I completely understand — I was petrified of the very mention of change. Since I can remember, I've been making my own excuses. Then, a sort of guardian angel taught me that whether we like it or not, things are always going to change — all we can do is deal with it.